Sunday, August 24, 2014

Maybe I Like That I'm Not Alright

All dressed up in a white straitjacket...
Here today and gone tomorrow...
 - "I'm Not Alright" by Shinedown

My sister's wedding was yesterday.

Okay, so maybe a few people I know wouldn't appreciate my choice of lyrics, but it seemed too appropriate to me. For my sister, and the majority of the committed folks in my family, "like a straitjacket" is far from their minds when considering what marriage means to them; but it doesn't quite work that way for me. I've had considerably worse luck than most of them when it comes to relationships, and don't expect that to change anytime soon. As of now, I'm just enjoying my bachelorhood.

The idea of committing myself to someone for a lifetime is difficult for me. While I have fallen in love, I have too fallen out of love, and I'm far too unforgiving of my own mistakes to handle living committed with someone after what I fear is inevitable happens. That led to my support of the concept of term marriage contracts.

I'm also not a big fan of getting all down up in suits and such, non-functional clothing as it were. I'd rather be wed in something that wasn't rented, something that meant something to me. While I imagine it might be different for the bride (if applicable) who keeps her wedding dress (though unless she passes it down, it will never been worn again), for us guys, a suit is a suit is a suit (unless you're this guy), and to me, they look and feel like unnecessarily elaborate bedclothes rather than formal-wear. Give me a comfy pair of cargos and a favorite shirt, collar optional.

I also don't need any God in the ceremony, if there is any outside the courthouse. I'm a big fan if the script from Charlie and Anita's wedding from Numb3rs, and if I had to choose a script today, that would be the one (though I'd certainly welcome Larry's technical version).

I'm just not a big fan of the big to-do, and I hope that if I find someone, they feel strongly enough of the same way that we can stand off the attempts of our parents to do things in a far more traditional manners.

Here's hoping.